Thursday, December 4, 2014

To be or not to be: A baffling journey!

One’s sexuality is one’s own personal choice. Nobody really holds the strings attached to it and should not be concerned really so as to dictate whom you should love and why. The Laws and Order, and the society that we live in, largely requires to be changed to accommodate a very large percentage of people who are forced to live in the closet.

In the earlier times, the marriage was about finding the partner mate in terms of holding financial security and having social strata. By far, those rules have come to occupy a backspace and are not applicable any more. The times have come where both men and women wish to experiment, discover and find compatibility in several senses that would range from — emotional, physical and sexual. 

Embarking upon a relationship merely does not mean youngsters have the idea of marriage on their mind. Whether it is a one-night stand, a casual relationship or a live-in, commitment does not have to be on the agenda.

While the women in the contemporary times are far more empowered and are ready to embrace their sexuality, the male mind-set has changed, but not as much, as it is ought to be. The trope of the virginal bride still holds and captures their mind. Tag it as the double standards, the cost of straddling a la-la land between tradition or modernity or just plain old hypocrisy, the fact is that the youth of urban India hardly practice what they preach. 

Pre-marital sex and casual relationships have been de-stigmatized in the youths' minds but they are afraid of being found out and caught. The guilt is not about the act itself, but the fear of being discovered.

Is it fine to have premarital sex? This is one of the common question that lingers among the teens and the engaged couples. 

Perhaps, this is an indication that one is in a relationship that is progressing in that direction, but one is not sure what to do and where to head from that locus. In one’s own mind, one is probably weighing the pros and cons of the issue concerning pre-marital sex. On the positive side of the scale, there is hope for pleasure, and the fulfillment of sexual desires. The negative side of the same scale carries the weights of morals, fear of pregnancy or disease, and guilt. How do these scales balance?

Every relationship is unique in its own ways and one cannot and should not say why people make the choices they make in a relationship. Having said that, marriage is commitment and the alpha male mindset where you can get away with anything is just not acceptable. We are westernized enough to indulge in a casual sexual encounter but still caught in the patriarchal time warp where we cannot entertain the idea of our wife/girlfriend ever being touched by another man.

Law only works to threaten people, and can never make them to not do something. Sex in itself is not wrong. The most effective way of defending premarital love-making is spreading awareness of healthy sexuality among people. Awareness of healthy sexuality is not at all the knowledge of safe sexuality. 

It is essential to train individuals to mingle with opposite sex in a mature way, and inspiring them to have mutual respect for man and woman. From the very childhood itself a baby should learn to accept people as men and women, the equal partners of life on earth; not as objects to fulfill lusty wishes and ambitions, and instead opt to rejoice the acts of love.

This post has been written as a part of an activity on indiblogger. 

Tuesday, November 25, 2014

Feeding mouths, fighting hunger!

Hunger, by far, is the number one case of deaths in the world. Aids, Cancer, etc follow it. There are 820 million hungry people in the world which is a very sad figure, and the worst is one- third of this number is the population from India. There are millions who die of hunger every year. There are again millions who sleep due to hunger every night. What worse could it get ? This problem really needs to sorted out and we as social human beings can do our best to serve the society and the needy people.

The main question that arises before everyone of us is that "Can we fight the cause and eradicate hunger ?"

Well, the answer is YES, and yes because people like you and me can be the first possible ones to fight this issue and make the world a better place to live in. You and me can fight it out with the organisations that have been long fighting the cause and serving millions of children in the country.

A little donations from us can bring the change in the society by working along with these governmental and non-governmental organisations. It is essential that we our least bit to bring in the changes in the society and work for its upliftment in the best possible ways.

We humans are rational and provided with those beautiful brains, and the best beautiful thing that we can do with the brain is think good for the humanity and do the best for it and make efforts to eliminate hunger and poverty from the society of India.

Let's not take this problem of hunger and poverty to the future years and solve it out right here. We all can do our bit by creating awareness among the elites and educated ones about the best of initiatives that can be taken to eradicate hunger.

Another could be to make donations to the organisations such as those of Akshay Patra Foundation that does a marvelous job in eradicating hunger from the classrooms by bringing them the quality and hygienic food. A good care is taken to serve a nutritious diet to the children in the schools. This has led to reduction in the dropout rates in the number of children from the schools which is ultimately is a boon for our country raising the literacy percentage.

Less or more, efforts have to be made from everyone like you and me, to fight the evils like hunger and poverty from the society.

Eradication of Hunger - #BlogToFeedAChild

It was my first day at hostel back in 2006 and as soon as I entered my mess, there were so many posters and notices planted on the walls at several places. 

The poster read "Do not waste food. There are millions who do not get to see it." And, I was the one getting to see it, watch it, have it, enjoy it and do a lot with it. Till that date were the lessons being taught in the school and home, but as kids we generally do not pay attention to them. Not that I wasted food earlier, but the poster had a huge impact on me, the reason being, I was told that now since I am going live a hostel- life, I should be a responsible child and pay attention to the important details in life. And, right there after seeing the poster, there were lots of thoughts ran down the street of my mind. It was happening because I had the hostel food for the first time in life, and I never thought much about food, for I was always pampered and served whatever and wherever I wished to.

I made a promise to myself, I shall never waste any food and shall always love and respect it as I am one of the lucky one to have it at my disposal as and when I need it. Since that day, I have almost never and ever wasted food, and my family is proud of this habit.

It is essential that we pay importance to little things in life, and larger ones fall in place itself. Why I mentioned this statement is that, in order to have a fulfillment of the dream of a well nourished, educated and well developed India, we must start from the base level where the least and the best possible as the responsible citizens we could and should do is elimination of classroom hunger and ensuring their proper education as this would remove the poverty from all levels of society.

Firstly, it is important to have a will to contribute to the welfare of the society and make the best possible efforts to be a part of it. Like Akshay Patra Organisation and several other NGO's, we can do our little bit by donating and promoting these great initiatives.

Secondly, ensuring proper awareness for the poor masses so that they send their kids to school and get them educated, with the promising meals like those provided through Mid-Day Meal Scheme and Akshay Patra organisation.

Thirdly, organizing activities for children where they shall be eager to make their way to classrooms, and have their meals and education simultaneously. There must be certain kind of motivation developed into these kids so that instead of skipping school and classes, they are excited to join and learn from them. 

There must be obsession fused into the children in-order to shoot out this menace of hunger from the country. Let's not just watch it from a distance and instead make efforts in order to contribute in making changes to the society in whatever manner possible.

Hunger Elimination from Classroom!

I fairly remember the statement so well that my GrandFather usually used to quote, given by Mahatma Gandhiji, "There are people in the world so hungry, that God cannot appear to them except in the form of bread."

For once, can you imagine for how long one can stay without food, getting no proper nourishment and going hungry for the longest possible duration. Well, it is difficult for us to even ponder ourselves into that situation. Here, 'us' refers to those who can at the least afford to read this article. 

Starvation is worst possible menace as I could think over all the possible threats to human in the world. There dwells no peace of mind, no desires of living, no adequacy of life without the  purpose of living. What does a person is here for in the midst of all this? This does no good to humanity and society at a large.

Making sense to all this, there is a lot of population of India, especially the poor and poverty ridden children, for whom either the meals or education are the two options among which the choice is to be made. With no doubts, a human would first look to meet the hunger and the body requirements which would ultimately get him/her drifted to other matters of importance.

It is important to feed the children of this country in order to ensure their higher enrollment in schools and give their contribution to education and do things of importance that would bring a change in the growth and development of not only the individual but also the society at a large.

It is essential that the educated and well-paid masses of the country contribute a little to the society for the elimination of classroom hunger and make the best of efforts to pave the children of this country on the imagined path of 100% literate India. 

The great initiative by Akshay Patra Organisation making their best possible efforts to collect funds from governments and other organisations for giving the best quality food to the hunger-struck children and shifting their mindsets towards education, is laudable. Such organisations are a great boon to the society as this would eliminate the problems of beggary and poverty. This is in-turn leading to the progress of these poor masses.

A cent-percent educated India would in short time be eliminated of the grave problem of hunger and this would take them to shoot for better heights and ensure the proper growth of future generations and India.

I am going to #BlogToFeedAChild with Akshaya Patra and BlogAdda.

Sunday, November 23, 2014

To the joys of Childhood!

It is never too late to re-live the childhood, for what I feel is that it is that phase of life, we can live as many times as we want to, only if we really wish and aspire to.  

I do not miss my childhood, but I miss the way I took pleasure in small things,  even as greater things crumbled, and I keep visiting those days time and again as and whenever possible. Those were the days I could not control the world I was in but now there are certain things under my control, under my wish and will. There were times when I could not walk away from things or people or moments that had hurt me that time, but now I have all the choices and variables available at my disposal. The only thing that has been constant is that I took joy in the things that made me happy and I still continue to rejoice them the same way. Wonderful it is, ain't it? It really is, and that is how it should be.

As we grow-up in life, it becomes full of quirks and the deadly secrets. Childhood days are those days in the life of an individual where one goes on to stem those pillars where the branches of life are nurtured over it. The branches and the tree would be as heavy as the foundation would be.

For sharing and coming up with the best memories from childhood days, the best were rhyming loudly with the whole school. I used to eagerly wait for the assemblies and for the announcements where everyone would be singing in chorus.

One of them goes like this:  “If you are happy and you know it”

If any of the St. Thomsian, would be coming across it, he/she would know what I am talking about. The morning assemblies were the best part of the day. The best was our Principal Sir and all the teachers also used to join us in the song. This particular song “If you are happy and you know it” used to fill the thrill in every child in the school and everyone used to be so happy for whole of the day, for if you feel good, everything around will be good and emitting positive vibes and energy. This is the aura of the happiness, which the song ultimately conveys at large.

The video for the lovely rhyme is here:

Here goes another one: “Old MacDonald had a farm”

And if anyone from the Garg family that I am from, comes to stop at this post, shall approve of what I am going to narrate next. We have never known limits to the joy of this particular poetry song till today. Any one of the cousins would start and all would come out of their rooms and join. These are the joys of a joint family and I am proud of it. We have so much of these fun-filled moments. The best part of this song is that we used make our grandfather sit with us and make rounds and rounds around him while going on loudly with this poetry. Can you imagine of the joy I am talking about it here? To no doubts, it used to be so much fun and the excitement in we all kids new no boundaries.

The video for this yet another wonderful rhyme is here:

These are two of the memories of my childhood with the rhyming and merrily going around, and living happily to those memories today as well. These are the pure and pious moments for me which I would love to cherish and live forever with. With the advancement in life, we have entries and exits of individuals, like as I write it, I am missing my grand parents for they have left for some better world from here. Also, I miss my school days and singing in chorus and with friends and lots of schoolmates.

These are the joys that stay with us in the form of memories and precious moments. Though I cannot set back certain things, but even as today I want to remember and re-live those moments, I sing them and live them. I had a happy and a lovely childhood, that makes me a child again even today.

This post is a part of Kids Hutactivity at

Tuesday, November 18, 2014

#ToiletForBabli : The dignity of female!

Women Are Honored Where, Divinity Blossoms There
(Yatra Naryastu Pujyante, Ramante Tatra Devata)

Perfect statement to refer Womanhood that has been long reverenced as a manifestation of divine qualities since ancient Indian culture. It has been a symbol of eternal values of humanity in selfless love and caring for others most of the times. The ancient Indian philosophers long believed that the seeds of divinity grow and blossom in a well cultured society where women are given due honours of equal opportunities of respect and dignity.

Despite of the declining state of affairs during the medieval times, where exploitation and suppression of women occurred at a faster pace as compared to the ancient times than moral devaluation, women kept rising through several dimensions proving their existence and survival. 

Females, in this country have been worshiped since times immemorial, but with the passing time the situations regarding proper sanitation, health and hygiene have been deteriorating, which is ultimately a sad state of affair for a developing country like India.

Defecating in the open poses a serious threat on the dignity of women in our society. Imagining of the situation of females defecating in the open is grave menace which must be tackled immediately and stringent measures by governmental and non-governmental agencies should come forward and make things actually happen on the ground by providing adequate facilities and means of sanitation.

There is no better service that could be done to the females of the villagers of this country, than providing them with proper sanitation facilities which would improve their health and hygiene standards. If the female in the family stands fit, the other members are ultimately benefited from her as she can take care of the family in the best possible manner.

According to the reports of WHO and UNICEF where India tops the list in the open-defecation, is a serious threat to the social status. This makes us to look down. The efforts should come forward to remove this blot on the name of India and pave India towards a healthier state where everyone would be having access to better sanitation facilities and taking forward the baton of India from a developing to a developed nation, and seeing forward to that day when India would be set as an example before everyone of happier and merrier country.

High GDP (Growth Developmental Product) would rise manifold when proper care is taken of the women in terms of better education and health facilities. They must be given necessary lessons on the maintenance of hygiene of their own and the family which would reduce the number of ailments and diseases. This would lead to prosperous and happy family and ultimately a progressive and leading nation.

For a nation to progress, its citizens must have the basic facilities to be provided at the grass root level and their progress must be ensured so that they contribute in the growth and development of the country at a large.

It is essential that without any grievances, for whom-so-ever it is possible should come forward to donate for the cause of making India a "open-defecation" free nation. Domex has done a great work by paving way for the development of defecation and adequate sanitation facilities in several parts of the country for better disposal and hygienic standards.

You can bring about the change in the lives of millions of kids, thereby showing your support for the Domex Initiative. All you need to do is “click” on the “Contribute Tab” on and Domex will contribute Rs.5 on your behalf to eradicate open defecation, thereby helping kids like Babli live a dignified life.

Monday, October 20, 2014

Book Review : God is a Gamer by Ravi Subramanian

Details of the book:
Title: God is a Gamer
Author: Ravi Subramanian
Publisher:  Penguin Books India
Price: INR 299/-
Year: 2014
Pages: 310
Genre: Thriller

About the Author: Ravi Subramanian is an Indian author. A banker by profession, Subramanian has written popular thrillers about banking and bankers, including two Crossword Book Award winning titles The Incredible Banker and The Bankster. His works include :
2007 If God Was a Banker
2008 I Bought the Monk’s Ferrari
2010 Devil in Pinstripes
2011 The Incredible Banker
2012 The Bankster
2013 Bankerupt
2014 God is a Gamer

Book Review: To begin with the review, the book kept me up throughout the night without letting me keeping it down. Ravi Subramanian has done the justice with his work like the way he did with “If God was a Banker”. The cover page of the book also captured my attention and made me to go ahead with the book.

The book “God is a Gamer” is the first one to introduce the concept of virtual currency and brings it out in the plot appropriately and takes the world by storm and sets in the possibilities of its future. As I liked the concept of virtual currency, I must say this is what readers might appreciate for this.

The story takes place in Mumbai (India) and Washington D.C (USA). The story sets in with the deep conversations among the corporate leads, one of them being Joseph Saunders, the Chief Executive Officer of the Visa International and the other one being Vijay Banga, President of the Mastercard International.

There is a small gaming company owned by an entrepreneur, Aditya Rao. The company later goes on to make its place on the World map after Varun, the part-time drug dealer joins it and turns the tables around for the company, and changes its fortune.

After a year, Wikileaks shakes the US government by bringing in the story of the Bitcoins. This is followed by an explosion that takes the life of a bureaucrat making the FBI to chase and sort the case.

In India, a chief banker dies after slipping from the building top in the middle of a party. Meanwhile, the world is being turned upside-down with the bitcoins, growing by each day. Also, the finance minister comes to realize of the promises that he made, which cost him beyond he thought.

The novel has mixed set of emotions set out in the novel, making the readers to discover of various possibilities, which would ultimately be proven wrong when the novel would be towards the end. The author in the novel aptly lays the importance of social media and the smart phones in the daily lives and how they affect the personal and professional markets.

The story is quick and keeps you engaged in the mixed rage of the events taking place. The plot has been executed well and makes the reader to turn the pages, without testing the patience, indeed.

“God is a Gamer” is a world where money means nothing, martyrs are villains, predators are prey, assassination is taught by the ancient Greeks, and nothing is as it seems.

Rating : 4/5

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Monday, September 29, 2014

Book Review - Private India : James Patterson and Ashwin Sanghi

Details of the book:
Title: Private India
Authors: James Patterson and Ashwin Sanghi
Publisher: Random House India
Year: 2014
Price: Rs.350
Pages: 448
ISBN: 978-0-099-58639-5

Ashwin Sanghi: born 25 January 1969, is an Indian writer in the thriller fiction genre. He is the author of three best-selling novels: The Rozabal Line, Chanakya's Chant and The Krishna Key.

James Patterson: born March 22, 1947, is an American author. He is largely known for his novels about fictional psychologist Alex Cross, the protagonist of the Alex Cross series.

Private India: The book is a 8th book part of “Private” series and (Jack Morgan book4) by James Patterson which he co-authored with Ashwin Sanghi.

The plot of “Private India” by James Patterson and Ashwin Sanghi has so many characters revolving around the main character in the story- Santosh Wagh, who is heading the leading private detective agency of the country known as Private India.  Private India is a part of global detective agency “Private” which is headed by Jack Morgan and the Indian part of this agency is handled by the team headed by Santosh Wagh.

The story in it has a lot to keep the readers engaged and rather entangled along the drive towards turning the pages of the book as one proceeds with a number of sequences till the end. The story begins with the murder of a Thai woman doctor who is in Mumbai for her personal touring visit. She is found dead in the hotel room with number of strange articles around her dead body.

There is a sequence of murders that follow the Thai lady, each time being a woman. There is a lot of mythological aspects being brought into the work piece throughout, addressing the issues that largely depict the various psychological aspects of the murderer. Private India is largely a bouquet of mysteries trying its best to surprise the readers at several points in the story.

Gangsters, godmen, celebrities, politicians, beggars, orphans, prostitutes, police, journalists, nomadic tribes, local trains, dilapidated buildings, terror attacks and millions of people- have been tracked throughout the novel. The Indian-ness part of the book has been well sought out. The proceedings of Indian Judicial system and the workings of the police has been depicted quite aptly within the novel. The authors take us on a great ride throughout the lanes of Mumbai with its several aspects of prostitution, gambling, smuggling, killing, murderers, etc providing it Bollywood tone to the plot.

The best line from the novel :  Life has no meaning without the presence of death. Life is simply the absence of death. The fools of this world labor to prevent death, unmindful of the fact that it is death that will set them free.

The novel keeps you hooked till the end making you flip pages one after the other, until one grasps the last page of the book. The language is comprehensible and keeps a knack with the reader. Though the novel still keeps you in thought process, there is a little disappointment towards the end, but it is overall a fine read.

Rating: 3.5/5

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Wednesday, August 20, 2014

In the maze of life..

In the maze of life, 

none would ever know, 

of the profound story, 

that grew to glory, 

of the near existence, 

of you and me, 

where we walk the Earth, 

battling around, 

with destiny and fate, 

about the real and the reel, 

decoding the mysteries, 

scoring over the existence, 

and going past the ascertain, 

with the hidden scripts, 

of either souls, 

that lay deep rooted inside, 

owing a little space, 

in the appetite of spirit, 

capturing unmarked corners, 

being the invincible, 

withdrawal sickness, 

of both of us, 

falling into the debts, 

to the life that offered us this zest.

- Nandini

Where are we caught up ?

I believe,
we as human beings,
have cut down,
on our own wings,
on the level of consciousness,
and forgotten,
or seem careless,
for our fellow beings.
Where are we caught up,
in the chains,
of our own lives ?
of our own needs ?
of our own ego gratification ?

- Nandini

Lift from the abyss..

The quench of discovering the self,
engulfed somewhere in the abyss.

that lays far away from effervescence,
nearing the peace and silence.

Let the mighty soul expand,
and the harmony land.

Into the shallow pit,
welcome the easiness hit.

In the darkness there is light,
it is just the matter of sight.

There lays all the delight,
make the horizon bright.

In the world of fantasies,
reach for the higher skies.

For the moon that is high,
looks upon many, doesn't sigh.

After the hours of darkness,
there is showering of happiness.

- Nandini

Monday, August 18, 2014

And It's When They Smile.

Basking in the glory,
with every success story,
when I rise each time,
to rise and shine,
facing all ups and downs,
wearing the victory gowns,
unraveling the mysteries,
in making of the histories,
lifting me from the failures,
into the hands of valor,
with all that supremacy,
making the paths seem easy,
to ascend from the tides,
taking through the rides,
it's when I stand high,
and take an optimized fly,
it's when they(mom&dad) smile,
my achievements know more miles.

- Nandini 

Let There Be Light.

Let the light peep in,
and shadows deepening,
from the panes in the sky,
let it scatter on thy.

Let there be light,

and a little more delight.

The sunshine emerges,

form dusk to dawn images,
of several colors and hues,
and the fragrance diffuses.

Let there be light,

and a little more delight.

The nature's offerings,

life and death weaving,
for a man's vision,
broadening the horizon. 

Let there be light,

and a little more delight.

- Nandini 

Saturday, August 16, 2014

Raising A Toast!

At the stumbling stone,

I managed to hold thy,
grabbing the sight,
I plan to stay thou beside.

Across the lanes of that old street,

there was a coffee shop,

we planned to drop by,
raising the toast with all hope.

Chanting and rattling,

of life with each sip,
there was a beauty,
that laid on the lips

The cracking of the eggs,

and the mysteries of life,
then I profoundly discovered,
of the bond that I share with you.

- Nandini

History's Mystery.

History is profound,
in its glory, lost and found,
are the stories,
of losses and victories.

Every second becomes a history,
with its own random story,
in the continuation,
of the states and the nations.

Harmless and harmful,
hopeless and hopeful,
unfolding the mystery,
create another history.

- Nandini

The Oscillating Breath!

Up above in the air,
there lies the blue layer,
also, are other shades,
where the worries fades.

On dark and dusky mud,
standing like a stud,
foothold in the rains,
camouflaging the pains.

The sky meditates,
the merriment radiates
the cloud pours,
on the earthly bores.

The lush green grounds,
and the scent surrounds,
on the swings' chains,
its peace that mind attains.

- Nandini

Thursday, August 14, 2014


Hope is beautiful,
and strengthening,
instills the faith,
for crossing,
the million miles.

Hope is credence,
and the confidence,
fulfillment of promises,
and aspirations,
of the self.

Hope is trust,
and power,
towards others,
of the beliefs,
and the desires.

Hope is leading,
and enlightening,
towards the aims,
and the aspirations,
of the dreams.

Hope is light,
and bright,
of the urges,
and the yearnings,
that lay inside.

Hope is the action,
and the process,
of the impending,
tasks and missions,
towards the feat.

Hope is the wish,
and the dream,
looking forward,
to the hope,
at the end of the tunnel.

- Nandini

Wednesday, August 13, 2014

The Aching Silence.

I exist,
in the midst
of your mind,
and there arises
the fumes,
of thousand thoughts,
spending long hours,
where there lays,
no escaping,
and no hiding,
I plan to hold back,
into the pages,
of marked silence,
somewhere in the path,
I might be-fit,
breaking and shattering
down the shackles,
driving away the fears,
visioning the solace,
and the realities,
follow like a shadow.
I am drenched,
in the tranquility,
my soul awaited peace,
from the aching silence.

- Nandini

Tuesday, July 22, 2014

Fumes from the Forests!!


The rays filtering, through the dust rising,
decaying the leaves, the light cascading,
raising the fragrance of the wild flowers,
the insects scurrying beneath the leaf litter,
the aroma of the pine cones and needles,
the brisking winds through the trees,
in search of smell through the fauna and flora,
the fumes through the trees of strong aroma,
rocks and rivers, streams and gorges,
the pleasant smell the shadows forges,
where grow the lichens and mosses
emitting the fumes of the dampness,
the fragrances of the sawmills,
the odour of the redwood trees,
it is the forests odors, browns and greens,
floods the  senses of the human beings.
The fragrance that flows, freely to the nostrils,
of the Sandalwoods in the long track of forests,
whirling round and around all along the miles,
floating in the winds, bearing smiles,
the water tumbles down the forests lane,
the perfume dispensers in the valleys, in the lakes,
of thousands of blossoming leaves and flowers,
Emanating from the nature are the plentiful smiles,
in the form of fragrances and the scents,
clinging upon the imagination, 
and wonders of the mankind.


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